Is it idealistic to believe that everyone can learn to love their body? This was a burning question when I set out to write about body acceptance. Why am I dealing with this topic? They say that writers write what they want to know. And when it comes to loving my body, it’s been an ongoing, lifelong process.
That being said: Here’s what I know (or want to know) about loving the body we’ve been given. The process begins with acceptance. And accepting your body, in my opinion, can be broken down into three steps:
Step one: make peace with yourself
The journey to body acceptance starts with making peace with yourself. Sure, we all have things about our bodies that we’d like to change if we could, but what about the reality of that idea? So start by asking yourself, “What about my body do I need to learn to accept as it’s?” To identify my feelings, I like to use a journal. When you’re ready, write down your answer to this question. Take a look at your answers: Can you find ways to be grateful for what you have? What gifts does your body allow you to share? Make a note of these answers too.
Second step: Become aware of your body language
This brings me to step two of our three-part equation: what does your posture say about you? Body language tells a story. If we pay attention, we can learn a lot about a person by becoming aware of their body language. Think for a moment: What does your body language say about you? Look closely: Are you sitting with your arms crossed? Is your posture not what it could be?
Poor posture not only puts pressure on your organs, but also shows the world that you are unhappy. In his best-selling book, Body Language: The Essential Secrets of Non-Verbal Communication, Julius Fast explains that body language is a scientific principle. The scientific study of body language, “Kinesics,” has proven that body language can actually contradict verbal communication. Here are just three examples of how your body language can make a negative impression on everyone you are in contact with: ï Poor posture ï Crossed arms ï Averted eyes Conversely, there are also many ways to show positive body language: Eye contact, a strong posture and a confident demeanour.